Jonathan being happy
Several weeks ago Jonathan aged out of the 2 year old room at church... Being the total nervous parents aware that he does and might have some challenges in his life; we decided that we were going to try putting him with the three year olds. If it didn't work then put him back with the two year olds and try in another couple of weeks.
We talked to one of the folks in charge of this and she was totally okay with it. We asked about potty training status and she said that the 3's it did not matter. We explained that both his teachers at school and us were working on it because of a language delay.
Somehow, a few weeks later we "accidentally" checked him in to the 3's and to our surprise he did awesome and even liked it. He was plain old wore out but there was a REALLY HAPPY 3 year old by the name of Jonathan riding in our backseat.
Last week, he had paint on his shirt because of the art project they did. It was Bright neon day-glow green. The teacher said hey go check it out. They had been teaching him about the Flood and painted a gigantic rainbow.
Every week he has been there there hasn't been anything said to me about him or his behavior other than he did awesome and he LOVES to dance and sing. I am not going to discourage that because that is part of him that God put there and who am I to interfere with his giftings.
Today was strange. and the disclaimer here is: That I am not bad mouthing anyone, I am stating what happened and how I feel.
Here comes today though. Andrew and I were on the schedule to volunteer in the room where Daniel hangs out (in the crawlers 7-11m) We get there and yes the tag for Jonathan was messed up(and honestly that was the fault of the folks at check in and me- I sent an email to have it changed)honestly easy fix and everyone happy.
I went in to the room we are in and was in the normal mode of let's go drop Jonathan off.(because although we are almost always on time) The 3's teachers are NEVER there when we get there... anyways it's never a big deal we just bring him and his backpack and explain diapers are in the bag... yada, yada etc.
Not but 15 minutes goes by that the male teacher brings Jonathan to me saying he messed his pants and that they had nowhere to change him...Basically he kicked him out for not being potty trained... leaves him there with me... Jonathan was looking SAD.I was sad and infuriated for him. I changed his poopy diaper and went down the hall and put him in a 2 year old room.(I should have taken him back but I had some words for this person.. I figured I didn't need to share)
Okay I was mad and heartbroken. Mad because you made my child not feel normal and like everyone else. Heartbroken because I KNOW how how he tries to talk and have fun with the other kids, and how much he's been enjoying that time.
I will not get upset or feel guilty about the things that he has had to endure in his short life, but I will say this: As his mom I just want him to be as normal a child as he can be, and to be around kids his age that are on track with what he needs to be doing. I do not want him to ever be separated out or anything else for that matter for the stuff he is learning how to do, or struggles to do.
For that matter I don't think he's the only 3 year old there not potty trained. He statistically can't be...so what is the problem.
Now I am going to call one of the leader folks and tell her about this... but Thankfully I am happy to report that it's great having Jonathan smile, and he can bounce back from that but I really don't care to repeat this stuff again for his sake.
For heaven's sake he is a very sweet child and I just want him to be loved and know that he's accepted. That and I LOVE to see him smile.
The Best part of being a mommy is seeing my kids smile and hearing them laugh. That is what I live for. But doesn't every mom?
Be blessed
((HUGS)) How awful! Your right, not all three year olds are potty trained. I know some four year olds that are not potty trained.
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