First Day of a new School year

Day 1: This is the beginning of another chapter. 

 Forget that. 

 I hope this is the beginning of a new book, because the last one was far too painful and ended in a way I hope to NEVER repeat.

Yesterday was the first day of school at a new school.  

This means there are new staff and new routines to learn.  Anything new can create chaos and anxiety for Daniel. 

Being at a new school also brings a sense of loss for both Daniel and Jonathan. Their friends aren't at their school with them any more. I pray they can find friends that they can play with and learn from. I just pray that Daniel gets the courage to go play with anyone.

The people that were most familiar with Daniel are gone and mostly for good reasons.  

All I can say right now is we hope they learned from Daniel how to treat students and we hope the laws regarding how adults treat children in schools change.

This is Jonathan's 4th school and Daniel's 3rd school and Daniel is in First grade in this district.  I wish This school district would not  move around their special education students so much.  The school district is causing some instability for the most vulnerable students... Let us put down some roots and bloom.

We are going to a school that is a wee bit closer to home but still a good distance away.

Here are our stats: 

Daniel started First grade... He has 2 teachers. Mrs. T. and Mrs. P.  He also has one speech therapist  who is also Mrs. P....We happen to have already known one of our teachers through church.

Honestly it felt awkward when I learned she was going to be his teacher. and then after talking to a mutual friend we all agreed that maybe this was God answering our prayers and that maybe she might be sensitive to know what his needs are and not hurt him.

He will split his time depending on  how he is doing behavior wise.

Sarah is still a year away from starting Kindergarten and we will be starting a home school curriculum for pre-k.

Friday: How has Daniel been this week? He's had several melt downs, potty accidents and has run away several times. This is pretty much mild Daniel at school.  Not too sure anyone really knows what they are doing, but since they are totally retesting him I cannot do anything but watch.  I have been told I can only give a history of what he's done and how the last school dealt with it.  I cannot and should not be trying to fix anything for the school.  I have to let them figure it out.  If it's still wrong when we go to our IEP/ARD meeting, then we're going to get someone to bust some chops.  

We would appreciate any and all prayer/thoughts for the year.

We had issues in the morning with how late the bus what getting to school.  The bus would come at 7:10-715 am and wouldn't get to school until nearly 8 am.  We will be addressing the bus issue and our compensatory (make-up) speech therapy issue that goes hand in hand... but until they fix this I will be at least taking them to school.

Until then Enjoy some first day pictures and be very blessed.

It is Finished... Sort of

Okay At the bottom will be some pictures.  Some people want their Hoover  dose.
School finished out May 29th for Jonathan.  He'll officially be in fourth Grade.
We made the difficult decision to pull Daniel out to homeschool on May 4th, abruptly ending his school year.
We were in the middle of  a major dispute with our school district and there were attorneys involved.  I won't get into major details but it did get WAY worse before it got better. Absolutely crazy.
Our advice: unless the crap is hitting the fan  and people are outright screwing up majorly, and breaking several federal laws regarding your child with a disability at school, do not  file  due process.  This was an  extremely emotionally draining experience, as well as a time hog.  we had to basically clear our calendar and be ready for anything.

If you have been dealing  with a school district and hitting the same brick walls and getting no or little movement as we were.  My sincerest empathies.  Go to COPAA and Find a great educational attorney or Advocate. Find out what your rights are and fight for it.

We are happy to announce we are no longer amid a Due Process lawsuit.
We were able to attend a mediation with the school district and get what we wanted.
What this means for us is we are going into  a new season.  With a new school, with new teachers, more therapy and yes everyone is getting training in the areas of restraint and seclusion and it's legal and not legal uses..  We get new IEP meetings and documents and both boys are getting new evaluations so their programming and supports match their needs.


We'd Like to thank....

We'd first of all want to Thank God for  pretty much, showing up and rescuing us from the desperate ditch we were in.
2nd (keeping it general because I'd be remiss to forget someone)
Thank you to all of our friends/Family  for your friendship, love and support.
Especially those who gave us sound advice, prayed for us when we needed it, and talked us off the ledge of our sanity, and especially if you made us laugh.
We would like to thank those especially that we know of or don't know about who have been praying along and have prayed "Jericho" prayers for us.  This is a huge answer for us although this may only  right our ship so we can move along.  We appreciate your prayers and covet every last one.

We would like to thank the Miller Family for  volunteering to watch our kids while went to various meetings. We owe you so beyond everything, gratitude doesn't seem enough.

We'd like to thank the professionals we trusted and continue to trust to help us navigate what horrible situation we had been in for a while.  They like to think of themselves like roadside assistance with supernatural vision.  We could not discern how deep a ditch we were in with Daniel and apparently after they dug through records and talked  to us...we had apparently not just gotten  in a ditch but  had also were hanging dangerously off the side of a mountain and had overheated.  We needed a tow truck (due process).  Somehow Daniel had slipped through so many cracks, no one knew what they were doing or where he should be.
as an aside I would like to thank Daniels developmental pediatrician and regular pediatrician for sharing our sentiment about our kids and their situations and for allowing us to use them (although very sparingly) to try and get what Daniel and Jonathan needed.

 What we learned.

We learned several things.
The first being that having a child with special needs comes with a little  bit of a filter.  You see only SOME of the stuff you're dealing with while the rest you may not see completely.  We always hope that we see things seeing totally objectively, but sometimes we can't see everything and that's okay.

Secondly, we cannot do everything we want for our children to the extent we want to.  We strive to be awesome advocates for our children but  there is only so much we can do .  When we discovered there were some pretty heavy legal issues going on in our situation with Daniel, we reached the end of what we could do ourselves and called an attorney. Best and most difficult phone call ever.
We had to deal with our pride of not being able to handle this on our own and now realize we were never meant to go through things on our own.

Being also the parent of a Rare and undiagnosed child a lot of our issues are over not being stuck to a label (because we don't have any) and just treating and dealing with  what issues we CAN see.
We also deal a lot with people who tend to brush us off because our kids "look" normal.
 Looks can be very deceiving.  If you know us well, we fight our well picked battles and try to live life as best we can. Some days we're not going to always win.

We cherish the little things because that's what being blessed is about.

 Me getting an award for leading a project in Jonathan and Daniel's 4H club.

 Jonathan getting The Rookie of the Year Award. (First year in 4H award)

 Perfect attendance

 Jonathan holding a rooster. Probably gets it from his Dad.

 Jonathan cleaning up a park

 Jonathan with his Legos and Gardening project.  Proud of my Rookie of the year,

Sarah playing with Legos... she just gets dragged everywhere.  She's doing 4H projects by default and she's a year shy of being a clover kid.

song I have been singing to my kids

This song I've been singing to them when this comes on my favorite radio station Air1...
We've been having some issues lately which leave both Daniel and Jonathan feeling like everyone is against them.
We withdrew Daniel from school to homeschool yesterday with a little more than 3 weeks left in the school year.  We did this out of an abundance of caution concerned for his safety.  He had run away from staff and out of school half a dozen times last week alone. and NO I'm not going to call the media.. calm down.
We attended our Resolution session last Thursday and spent 2 hours NOT talking. Someone else did all of the talking for us the same way we would have talked if it were us only no one can use what we said against us because we didn't talk.  It was pretty eye opening, but overall our school district is pretty ICY.  We didn't expect anything to come out because in general these sessions don't do much.  They didn't expect us to bring in some representation.  They were fully expecting us to just lay down and roll over and do what they wanted.  NOT. Gonna. Happen.

I'm Just here because the law says I have to... Just like this guy did at  the 2015 super bowl media day... only we thought about it and decided not talking at all was easier.



At this point Andrew and I  have placed our concerns at God's feet and our Educational attorney is doing all the fighting for us.  at this point we  have had several things happen to confirm that , yes we did the right thing by making the decision to call an attorney to fight for Daniel's  civil and educational rights.



Jonathan  had his appt. with his new developmental/behavioral pediatrician and because we know this doctor well enough because she sees Daniel she knew us so we were able to get down to business pretty fast. Told his whole story and my frustration with the medical community in the Dallas Fort Worth area.. Finding a caring pediatrician who  got what we were dealing with and was on the same page with us took forever to find... so much so she checked on Daniels progress and we decided we will start weaning him off his meds this week and adding a new medicine

Jonathan saw the Neurologist last week who checked him out and the spot on his back is a scar from one of his dramatic trip and falls down the stairs.  His NF-1 is fortunately only segmental meaning it's less severe in it's effects  with no tumor development likely.  The tricky thing for Jonathan's doctors is trying to determine which symptom is part of NF-1 and which is part of  the Chromosome 21q22 deletion he has. so a team of people  have been following on an as needed basis.  Genetics, though is once a year just to follow him.

Prayer request (Prayers, thoughts, intentions whatever and however because everyone has different beliefs)
If you could send some our way towards our lawyer on Wednesday ... He has a pre-hearing conference regarding our case.  Pray for the hearing officer to be fair. pray for favor so we can put Daniel back in school in the fall with the appropriate programming and supports he requires to be successful..

if you can pray for me I have been totally suffering with seasonal allergies... which invariably leads to either sinus issues or an ear infection.  my right ear is giving me a fit again. I see my doctor tomorrow.  Stinkin stress.twice in several months. don't see him for a couple of years and then then it's more than I'd like because I generally try to stay away from doctors..

Be blessed even if you are walking through the Valley or if you are on a mountain top.  May your valleys not be as low and your mountain top be a place of rest and preparation.
Shalom

Undiagnosed Awareness 2015

Daniel is in this video. at about 2:19  Feel free to watch the whole thing... He is our  undiagnosed kid.  Some day we would love for the unknown shadow to show it's ugly face for the last time and  for a person to say oh that is _____/ and you treat it this way. Done.  Until then  we hope and we pray.  When we see a need we fight for what we know he needs.  Sometimes we find out that he needs more than the adults are willing/ able to give to him.  Sometimes we see a need and totally don't know who needs to be involved with a special expertise or what to   try and meet the need and what needs to be done.

2015 Bluebonnets

 I'm going to give Photo Credit to whom it's due... Mr. Brooks Kelley.  He found this gem of a location that fit every check on our list.  Even though in many places in Texas you can find these blue flowers next to the side of the road, many people just pull on over and take a picture.  No, not us.  Because we have a child who has no sense of danger and a large sense for causing drama err I mean adventure we  tend to look for places that are off the beaten path...Away from a road.
This place was  called Penn Farm and it's  inside of Cedar Hill State Park.
It was not all that far away from home and this area was so very peaceful that I really just wanted to stay there forever....

Enjoy and Be Blessed

Pictures

The next few entries will be more pictures while we are in the process of doing something called Due Process... Scratching your head? I have a pretty great article HERE for More

While we were on spring break in March, their Aunt Diana came to visit... so we went on an adenture.  More pics in tomorrow's post.  This was taken in Dallas AKA the BIG D.

We've been busy doing things with our 4h club...Here we were at The Cowtown Clean up with East Fort Worth 4h.  I am so very proud of my kids.

Jonathan holding a rooster at a 4h meeting... sometimes members bring things they are showing, for show and tell.  This exposes kids that have never seen  or known what they can do in 4h to what they can do.

I had the opportunity as a parent to lead a 4h project.  We chose to create a lego project for younger kids  This was an awesome project

Our Easter Pictures taken at our Church on April 5. 

Be Blessed

A story about someone I love and what they taught me.

Okay I was thinking about someone I dearly love.  I will not apologize for anything because of several things I was reminded of when I was with her.

I have a friend named Jennifer. Okay you say which one? Alright fair enough half my friends list it seems like.  Jennifer and I have known each other for a while.  We all met through mutual friends. We became close friends.. Long story short the mutual friends moved away and we all decided to hang out together... my oldest son, Jonathan shares the same name as her husband. awesome family.
I never thought I could write this  but somehow I was reminded.  Now that she knows... :-)

1. Never go anywhere while you are pregnant without a buddy.  At about 31 weeks when I was pregnant with Sarah Grace I got Hypermesis Gravidarum (extreme morning sickness) and had to go spend time at the hospital so I could learn how to eat again. Apparently Sarah was laying on part of my stomach and I was unable to hold food down because she was on a nerve that caused severe pain whenever I ate or drank anything. After I came home Andrew put me on restrictions so I wouldn't overdo myself caring for my kids, doing laundry etc.  This was good although it literally took 3 people to do what I normally did.
Jennifer became my doctor buddy.  She got to do everything with me well, except the private things.  She was able to be with me for a lot of ultrasounds to look at Sarah.  She also was there for me freaking out.  Which leads to

#2 Expect God to Show up in ways that will totally blow the lid off your God box forever.
Case in point...
One day as I said I went to the doctor, and I was telling him that I felt scared having to go to L&d with the complicated history I had with Jonathan's delivery and nicu stay.    The doctor asked if we prayed and the answer was yes, sure we all pray... and then he asked if he could pray, and he did it right there in the exam room. That we were not even expecting this because a lot of Christians when they ask to pray for someone don't actually do it there with someone.  Well not since we left MorningStar.  We both realized how ministry was exactly where you were and not exactly in africa or  in another country.  He was a minister with an MD.  His mission field: his office with his patients and with his patients in the delivery room. God uses you where ever you are.  We marveled at what God did, because it was so powerful over lunch at Mama Ricotta's.... mmmm Tiramisu...

3. I never thought the scripture we wrestle not against flesh and blood...would come to life at a church event we visited and I guess it became a WWE event where it became a wrestling match with the pastor and some guy.  It was scary and rolling on the floor funny... I was very pregnant and my kids were 2 years old and 4... I was afraid for my kids and myself and funny because a senior pastor was acting like a kid.

4. When in doubt take a funny picture or video...you'll totally laugh later and forget the  thing that we were all stressed out about.  Even if we were literally clowning around.

5.  The day I had Sarah, even though she was not with me ...I felt like she was with me in Spirit.  I prayed for you and your husband the entire day.
Words alone cannot express my love and gratitude for what you gave me in my life and what you did for my children.
a few months after I had Sarah, Andrew and I decided to move our family to Dallas/ Fort Worth.  It was the most difficult thing we had ever done.
When all 3 of our kids were sitting on a plane waiting to take off I seriously started weeping. my heart broke and I truly feel like I left a large piece of me in Rock Hill.   It took me a while, although I still miss Jennifer like crazy.
I have several very close friends that are more like family to me that it even feels a little bit weird saying that they are "friends".    Family is forever, and I will never, ever let you forget. I pray for you often.

So why am I talking about her?  Well, honestly she came to mind and the Lord started to remind me of all the things that He did and just how totally insane and awesome that was and how powerful and encouraging and life bringing  this just sharing REAL life is.


 I love you Jennifer and I'm just awed by the fact you are so amazing. <3 p="">
I dare anyone to share a memory you have that left a lasting impact of one of your friends.