And the result is somehow different than what we expected?

The morning of the third was crazy only because we had to get everybody in the house ready because after we took Jonathan to school, we left for Fort Worth.
It didn't take us very long to get there as it was our third trip collectively. We sat in our car for twenty minutes just listening to the radio and praying.
As soon as we checked in, Daniel heard his name called. After answering a billion questions Daniel's measurements were taken. The little dude is 43 pounds and 43 inches tall.
We were led into a exam room that had some toys in it and a table in it, but not much else.
What seemed like forever ticked by (more like twenty minutes) and the doctor comes in. I answer more questions, and show her the video off of my phone. She then examines him and points out every last flaw.
She talks to me about his IEP and how it was almost stripped out of services he needs at school just so he is stable enough to learn effectively. I told her another meeting has been scheduled later this month on this very issue. She leaves and comes back with her recommendations. Apparently he exhibits symptoms of opposition defiance disorder and a borderline cognitive disability(he probably poorly when he was tested on the spring).  She is going to send us to a psychologist to learn how to parent him when he is in full force. She said that he acts out because he may not understand how to process his emotions and he also may be acting out to avoid doing things that he perceives as difficult for him. His people at school and us as his parents need to learn to spot this and shepherd him in how he can deal with a given set of feelings.
The doctor is also sending him to be fully tested through genetics. This is great and we've been praying they'd send him for testing there.

As for the ODD diagnosis, here's my take. We don't really know what that all means, but it doesn't really change who God created him to be. He may face a few extra challenges right now, but eventually something wonderful will come from this sweet little man. Who knows maybe he'll be a doctor or a fireman. He probably can be who he wants to become. I pray every day for him that he would know that we are in his corner cheering for him, and that he learn to work through some of his issues that someday we can laugh about this.

It's really a uncomfortable feeling to understand that some things are really out of your control and ultimately in the hands of God. Ultimately  this is always a great thing.
We have already attempted a couple strategies from a love and logic type of approach and have seen some success in the limited situations we have tried it in. 
In any case if you feel led please feel free to pray for him. It would bless me if you left comments and I promise to read them to Daniel.

Be blessed.