controversy and a message

 There has been controversy in certain circles... Some  eating establishments (sorry, my spell checker isn't doing me any  favors today) are banning families with children under 6. Well, I belong to that classification of folks and I don't care for these blanket rules, especially when my kids aren't typical.
There are many theories as to why but I'll stick to 2 or three trains of thought.
Some adults really don't enjoy having kids running wild, making a lot of noise and just generally being animals. You know, the type of kids you see running around, chasing each other, running under tables, going up to strangers.. Generally their parental units either are unaware or are hiding underneath a table because they really don't know how to fix the behavior.
My kids have rarely done this. Two things. One we enforce rules with behavior and we'll get up and leave if our kids decide to actually act out of character. We'd like to live our life and take our kids with us.  I'd love to enjoy my time out without being made to feel like a wild animal handler.
Yes, occasionally my kids have their off days, but generally we are aware of this before we leave to go anywhere. Normally when kids are acting out like I mentioned earlier, typically all they get are dirty looks...No one bothers to step up and say anything.
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But then again this is just  discrimination...it's discrimination against the young... Yes, I can choose to go other places, but this sets a really bad precedent.
1. Maybe it's me and my severe dislike of people classing parents and their kids into a global group, instead of seeing these families as individuals and treat them according to their behavior. Banning the whole group of us as if ALL kids are evil little brats is wrong.
 It would be like me saying ALL men are evil, when ALL of them aren't. Just a few are and making a blanket statement like that is unfair to everyone that is good. Maybe you  should ban on a case by case basis, because some people I know do try and succeed to teach their kids how to behave in public.
2. It is our belief that is a parenting issue, not a legislative issue.  Some people need to be told the truth about how their kids act in public. Sometimes hearing it from someone they don't know shakes them  out of their denial.  But please don't just tell the parents how bad or disruptive it is, give some suggestions. Otherwise it's just a grumpy old man or woman telling me how awful my kids are being.
Can you tell this is a pet peeve of mine?

3. You don't teach your kids anything in a hypothetical situation. This isn't what would you do in this situation and when they turn 20 get to go do what ever. You have to give ground rules and go experience life outside and be seen.  Mistakes are a given, but the rewards and the teachable moments are clearly what wins out.
How else are we supposed to train our kids to behave in public if we're banned from being there? Just sayin' but I can see both sides.

Haven't we learned from history yet that telling a group of people where they can go or do, doesn't work and creates problems and divisions.
I follow the belief that someday our kids will be deciding where we will be going for our rest home, so maybe we should be teaching them respect and manners so that they realize they need to respect others. Otherwise who knows where we will end up.
Sound funny enough or something? Our kids will someday have kids of their own and if we don't do a great job now, they will perpetuate the mess, because it's ok? Scary...but thats so generational.
 We have to fix it now, so the future's better.
Go Be blessed

Dear Anonymous: Please tell me how you meant this "Sounds to me like you're getting everything you deserve! Yay!!" 


If you meant it out of a good way then, YAY... but if was bad come out and explain yourself.
Either way I am totally confused and would like to know. 
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especially Anonymous ones.