Pregnancy & Infant Loss Rememberance Day and Friends

This is my 101st post!


October 15th is a very special day. It is worldwide Pregnancy and Infant loss Remembrance Day. A day when those of us stop and remember the babies that we and our friends have lost.
If you asked me 10 years ago if I knew what a miscarriage was or even if I would have one (or even if I would ever get pregnant for that matter) I would have told you I couldn't tell you.
Now being in 2009 and having 2 miscarriages..I can tell you I've learned lot and gained a ton of compassion for what people have been through.
I would not ever wish one on my worst enemy nor would I ever tell anyone to abort their child.
Losing your baby is the worst pain that you will ever have and I will honor the short lives of the babies I lost and those of whom I am friends with. I honor Samuel who died of a fetal demise at 7 weeks (1/2005) and Hannah Janay who we lost by miscarriage (8/31/2007).

You can go HERE for more info on Pregnancy and Infant loss Remembrance Day

Please light a candle if not for a baby you are remembering , but for others who are missing their babies Due to Miscarriage, Stillbirth, PProm, or SIDS.


There is a silver lining in this story. If I had not lost my babies, I would never have had the sad honor of getting to know a group of ladies on the internet who had been through similar losses known as PAL or Pregnancy after Loss.
I do communicate with a lot of them and Many of us have gone on to have living children(sad to say "living" as a description of my children).
We have shared Laughter, Tears and everything in between.
Right now I hold a Special place in my memory and in my heart for Ladies such as Tracy,and Toni who recently lost their babies and now either have their ashes or have a cemetery plot with their dear angel babies names on it.
No one should ever lose a baby EVER and these dear ones definitely should have not been touched by that.
I hope they don't come to me and hate me for writing that as my heart hurts real bad for them. We may come from different backgrounds, but we are a sisterhood. A sisterhood where we all have been touched by an angel or two(or more).
Where would I be without Sarah who could be living a parallel life with me. There have been many times I thought something and she wrote it. She could have me crying one minute and the next Rolling on the floor laughing Until I peed. Daniel shares her baby Girl K's Birthday of July 25th. I do remember that her Son Stanford was born sleeping nearly a week after Jonathan was born. I love you Sarah.
Be blessed and go light a candle Thursday night at 7 pm (your time).